It’s never an easy decision to break up. Especially if you’ve been involved for a couple of years. There are always good times to remember and the whole thrill of getting to know each other. But lately I find …
- I’m spending way too much time wondering why this relationship is so unfullfilling. Is it me? It can’t be.
- I dread getting together in person. In fact, I’m hoping work gives me an “out.”
- I look for reasons why I can’t talk on the phone.
- When we do talk on the phone, I get upset and can’t focus for the rest of the day.
- Then I spend the next few days emailing, IMing, texting and actually chatting on the phone with my friends about it.
- I am excited when I have to say “no”
If this were a relationship, I would cut the cord in a heartbeat. Instead, it’s a volunteer group – which makes it almost work.
What do my friend say? See if it gets better. Maybe things will look up. Give it a chance. There are ebbs and flows in any relationship.
But the one that actually works – it won’t be the same without you. (translation: I’m kinda trapped, too, but we can commiserate about being trapped.). Or better yet, I love seeing you at our meetings. Me, too. I like being part of the gang. But that’s kinda like not dumping your crappy boyfriend because you like hanging out with his roommate.
What am I actually going to do? Procrastinate and be increasingly unavailable. Yep, that’s why passive-aggressive is such a popular response.